Love Shack Live is a fun place to explore fresh perspectives, eavesdrop on juicy conversations, and uncover mysteries that nobody talks about, but absolutely influence our relationships. If you are struggling in your marriage, just starting out in a new relationship, or are single and looking to do better next time, this is the podcast for you.


Latest Episodes

#89: Why The Stories We Tell Ourselves Hurt Our Relationships

It can be really hard to understand why our relationships are struggling, and it's even harder to talk about it.

We often try to create a story out of our experience, in order to make sense of what's going on. This helps us understand the situation and explain why we're hurting.

The truth is, your story is probably not as spot-on as you think it is. This podcast episode will help you understand why you create these stories, and how they might be hurting you more than helping you.

This week in the Love Shack, we're exploring why we try to create a story out of our experiences when we're struggling in our relationships. These stories help us understand the situation and explain why we're hurting. Especially when we then tell this story to everyone close to us, and if we're brave enough, a counselor or therapist. What's interesting is that we fight to defend these stories about why our relationships aren't working and when someone doesn't understand them, we feel hurt, and feel rejected when someone doesn't want to hear them.

Your story also might be holding you back from letting the past go and creating the new beginning you're wanting.

Tune in to learn how you can let go of the past and create a new beginning in your relationship.

Important Links:
• Get your copy of my brand new book Feeling Like Your Marriage Is Dead? http://lifetimeoflove.me/
• Want to learn how to stop a fight in 20-seconds or less? Get the cheat sheet here. https://stacibartley.com/stopfight
• Miss our past episodes? Check them all out here: https://stacibartley.com/podcast
• Relationship Check-up – tired of re-hashing your issues with your partner without making progress? Schedule your check-up today! https://stacibartley.com/checkup/

#88: Is it normal to doubt your relationship? All your FAQs answered.

This week on the Love Shack Live Show, we're answering all your relationship FAQs. Whether you're single and looking for love, or in a long-term relationship, we've got advice for you. From how to deal with a jealous partner to how to keep the spark alive in a long-term relationship, we've got you covered. So tune in and learn some helpful tips. And who knows? You might even find the answer to that question you've been asking yourself late at night. We're here to help, so let's get started.

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#87: How To Have A Strong Relationship And Travel The World Together

If you're looking to strengthen your relationship with your partner, look no further than this episode of the podcast. Tom and Staci are joined by travel expert Janet Forman, who has spent decades traveling the world with her husband. They share their tips on how to make the most of your time together while on vacation, from navigating difficult moments to making the most of your time together. 

• Learn how to have a strong relationship and travel the world together

• Get helpful tips and advice on how to make your relationship work while you're on the go

• Improve your communication skills and learn how to deal with stress while traveling

• Discover new ways to enjoy each other's company while exploring the world

Winner of more than sixty writing and photography awards and writing about travel ever since she hitchhiked across Europe as a college student, Janet Forman has circled the globe many times covering odd cultural corners from Vietnam, Burma, and Borneo, to Eastern Europe, South Africa, and Arabia.

You won't want to miss this episode!

#86: Is It Possible To Recover From An Affair? All Your Relationship FAQs Answered

My clients often have a lot of questions about relationships that they don't feel comfortable asking anyone else.

When you feel confused about your relationship but you have no one to talk to, it can feel like you're the only one who has these questions, or that you're the only one who is struggling in your relationship.

This week in the Love Shack, we are pulling back the curtain and answering your FAQs about relationships. Not only will you feel less alone because you'll see how many people have the same exact questions about their relationships as you, but you'll also finally get the answers to the questions you've been too scared to ask.

Join us as we answer some of the top questions that couples have about relationships.  Have you ever wondered if it's possible to recover from an affair? Or what a healthy relationship really looks like? Wouldn't it be great to receive answers to the questions that are weighing on your heart right now? In this episode, we're covering it all. If you've been struggling in your relationship and feel like you have nowhere to turn, this episode is for you.

Don't miss out on this week's episode! It will be packed with information that can help your relationship right now.

Join us for this special episode and get the clarity you need to move forward in your relationship.

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#85: How Body Image Impacts Our Relationships: A Conversation with Cliona Byrne

It can be tough to love our bodies, especially when we feel like they don't quite meet society's standards.

This often leads to poor body image, which can have a negative impact on our relationships.

In this episode, Cliona Byrne offers helpful advice on how to accept and love our bodies just the way they are. This way, we can get back to living our best lives!

In this episode, we're speaking with Cliona Byrne, a Body Confidence Coach who helps people from around the world to accept and love their bodies. We talked about how our body images impact our relationships. This is a conversation that comes up often in my sessions with clients, and it might surprise you by how much of an impact it does have.

If you're ready to stop being frustrated by your appearance and start living your life, this episode is for you. Byrne offers valuable insight and advice that can help you to love your body just the way it is.

Cliona Byrne, Body Confidence Coach helps people from around the world to accept and love their bodies. She has designed her own specialized coaching programs to work with adults, parents, and teens.

In this episode, we're covering several key topics about how our body image can affect our relationships, including:

  • Why does feeling uncomfortable in our own skin impact our intimacy?
  • Why poor body image has nothing to do with our size.
  • How to finally stop being frustrated by your appearance and letting your life pass you by.
  • How to get started loving your body right now, and get back to living and loving.

Listen to the episode and follow Cliona's advice to start making peace with your body today. You deserve to feel confident and happy in your own skin!

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#84: Don't Suffer Alone: What To Do When You're Struggling In Your Relationship

It can be tough to know exactly when you need to get some outside help and support for your relationship.

You might feel like you're struggling on your own, or that you don't want to bother anyone with your problems. Maybe you're wondering if things aren't bad enough…or maybe you think they are so bad you shouldn't even bother.

We're here to help. Today in the Love Shack we're going to talk all about exactly what you need to know when you're looking for help and support with your struggling relationship. We'll talk about when it's time to seek outside help, what kind of help is available to you, and how to get the most out of the support you receive.

Hi! We are Staci & Tom Bartley and we help committed couples rescue their relationships so they can finally create long-lasting love without having to spend hours analyzing their past, beating themselves up, or feeling like they are making no progress. We do this via sharing our unique frameworks, teaching new tools and skills, one on one sessions, and through our signature courses Relationship Rescue and Love For A Lifetime.

If you're feeling lost and alone in your relationship, don't despair. You're not the only one. Millions of people go through the same thing. The good news is that help is available, and there are things you can do to get your relationship back on track. In today's blog post, we'll talk about what to do when you're struggling in your relationship, and how to get the help you need.

No one wants to admit that their relationship is in trouble. It's hard to face the possibility that things might not work out, and even harder to ask for help. But if you're feeling like you're struggling and you don't know what to do, it's important to reach out for help. The sooner you get help, the better your chances are of saving your relationship.

In this episode, we're covering several key topics about what to do when you're struggling in your relationship, including:

  • Don't try to go through it alone – when you're struggling in your relationship, it can be tough to know where to turn for help. But it's important not to try to go through it alone.
  • When to seek outside help – when you're struggling in your relationship, it may be time to seek outside help. There are a lot of different resources available.
  • How to get the most out of the support you receive – once you've decided to seek outside help, there are a few things you can do to make sure you get the most out of the support you receive. First, be open and honest about your situation. Second, be willing to work on the problems in your relationship. And third, follow through with the recommendations that your therapist or counselor gives you.

Join us and listen in live Thursday at 1 pm PST/4 pm EST — and don't forget to subscribe so you never miss an episode!

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#83: The Forgiveness Factor: Why Learning to Forgive is the Key to a Happier, Healthier Relationship

It's hard to be happy and healthy in our relationships when we're carrying around a lot of anger and resentment.

Do you find yourself experiencing anger and frustration at the sight or sound of your partner? Do you have a hard time obsessing over old arguments or feel hurt over things that happened long ago? These are huge signs forgiveness is desperately needed in your relationship.

Learning to forgive can be the key to a happier, healthier relationship. Kelli Calabrese is joining us in the Love Shack this week to share her own personal divorce journey and how she was able to turn her story into joy by learning to forgive. By learning to forgive, we can open ourselves up to more joy and love in our lives.

In this episode, Kelli Calabrese is joining us to talk about the importance of forgiveness in relationships. Together we will offer simple ways for you to step into forgiveness yourself. This episode will be full encouragement for anyone who is experiencing anger and frustration in their relationship, going through a divorce, or fearing the end is near. Kelli's own story of triumph over tragedy is one you don't want to miss!

Join us to discover all the requests for forgiveness you may be missing in your life, and how stepping into forgiveness will help you live a more loving life now, regardless of your relationship status.

Kelli Calabrese is a wellness coach, speaker, and author with a focus on forgiveness. She has three science degrees and 27 certifications, making her an expert on all things wellness-related, including fitness, weight loss, energy, aging, and sleep. Kelli leads with a spirit-mind-body approach to well-being and often speaks on topics such as joy, love, and purpose. As a certified divorce coach, she has helped countless people get through the grief of separation, divorce, and post-divorce life. Kelli's goal is to help everyone she meets live their best life possible.

In this episode, we're covering several key topics about how forgiveness is the key to a happier and healthier relationship, including:

  1. Learn how to forgive, even when it feels impossible
  2. Gain wisdom and encouragement from Kelli's powerful personal story
  3. Open yourself up to more joy and love in your life
  4. How you can transform tragedy into joy and create a healthier, happier relationship

Listen in live Thursday at 1 pm PST/4 pm EST — and don't forget to subscribe so you never miss an episode!

Important Links:

  1. Get your copy of my brand new book Feeling Like Your Marriage Is Dead? http://lifetimeoflove.me/
  2. Want to learn how to stop a fight in 20-seconds or less? Get the cheat sheet here. https://stacibartley.com/stopfight
  3. Miss our past episodes? Check them all out here: https://stacibartley.com/podcast
  4. Relationship Check-up – tired of re-hashing your issues with your partner without making progress? Schedule your check-up today! https://stacibartley.com/checkup/
#82: From Chaos to Clarity: A Guide to Surviving Parenthood as a Couple

It can be tough to maintain a strong relationship with your partner when you become parents.

Between the sleepless nights, constant demands from your kids, and never-ending housework, it's easy to feel overwhelmed and alone.

Catherine O'Brien is an expert on this subject. She is an LMFT and author of the book Happy With Baby, Essential Relationship Advice When Partners Become Parents. Catherine is committed to supporting couples when they bring kids into their lives.

If you're a parent, there's a good chance you've experienced at least a little bit of chaos in your life. And if you're like most parents, you want to do everything possible to avoid letting that chaos consume your relationship with your partner. This week in the Love Shack, we're interviewing Catherine O'Brien, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and the founder of HappyWithBaby.com. We're talking about how to manage the challenges of parenthood while still maintaining a strong connection with your partner. If you're looking for ways to survive parenthood as a couple, this episode is for you!

We'll also share some easy strategies that you can use right away to start reconnecting as a couple again. So you can, finally, stop wondering things like:

  • Will I be enough to go around and meet the demands of the people I love?
  • Is it normal to feel alone, even when I am laying right next to my partner?
  • Is fighting about the kids normal? if so, for how long?
  • Is it possible to be partners in love AND partners as parents?

Catherine O'Brien knows what it's like to be overwhelmed, out of energy, and out of ideas as a new parent. She created Happy With Baby in order for new and expecting parents to discover the advice she wishes she could have had when managing expectations of parenthood and relationships.

Catherine is passionate about helping new parents to communicate and thrive through this transition, equipping them to be effective caregivers and with a happy marriage. She acts as a California state co-coordinator for Postpartum Support International and helped to establish A Mother's Heart in Sacramento, where mothers with perinatal and anxiety disorders go to receive support. Additionally, she participates in the Sacramento Maternal Mental Health Collaborative.

In this episode, we're covering several key topics about how to survive parenthood as a couple, including:

  • What role do outside forces play in new parents finding their way?
  • What can moms do to manage overwhelm?
  • Do things get easier for parents after the first hectic years?
  • What are some daily self-care things parents should be doing?
  • What are the things parents need to be talking about to increase communication and decrease stress?

Listen in live Thursday at 1 pm PST/4 pm EST — and don't forget to subscribe so you never miss an episode!

Important Links:

  1. Get your copy of my brand new book Feeling Like Your Marriage Is Dead? http://lifetimeoflove.me/
  2. Want to learn how to stop a fight in 20-seconds or less? Get the cheat sheet here. https://stacibartley.com/stopfight
  3. Miss our past episodes? Check them all out here: https://stacibartley.com/podcast
  4. Relationship Check-up – tired of re-hashing your issues with your partner without making progress? Schedule your check-up today! https://stacibartley.com/checkup/
#81: The Power Of Your Energy & How To Use It To Improve Your Relationship Health

Most of us are unaware of the power of our energy and especially about how it affects our relationships.

The truth is, our energy is always flowing and we expend a lot of it in our relationships. If we don't understand our own energy or the hidden energy interactions that happen between us and our partners, it can be hard to understand why we have a hard time maintaining the health of our relationships.

In this week's episode of Love Shack Live, Gail Behrend is joining us to discuss how we can harness the power of energy in our relationships to create stronger connections and improve our overall relationship health. Whether you are looking for ways to maintain healthy boundaries with your partner or struggling to communicate effectively, this episode will offer valuable insights and strategies for creating healthier relationships.

Gail Behrend has been an energy healer for 25 years and is joining us to share her insights on how our energy has a huge impact on our lives. She has a fantastic story of how she went from being an engineer and total skeptic to a seeker of wisdom and truth in the energy world. Gail will provide tips on how to become more aware of your own energy and how to use it to create positive change in your relationships. This show will be a great resource for anyone interested in understanding the hidden dynamics at work in their interactions with others.

By the end of this episode, you will know how to use your energy to improve your relationship health. You will have practical tips and tools that you can use to create more positive relationships in your life.

Gail Christel Behrend is an engineer, author, speaker, and energy healer. Midway through a successful 20-year engineering career, she experienced a spontaneous spiritual opening that changed her life, transforming her from skeptic to seeker.

Her spiritual journey eventually led her to explore human energy and alternative healing as a side vocation. She is a graduate of the Barbara Brennan School of Healing (BBSH) in Florida and has been an energy practitioner in Vancouver, Canada for over 25 years.

In addition to her corporate training development business, she also offers public workshops on energy and is a certified Infinite Possibilities trainer based on the bestselling book "Infinite Possibilities – The Art of Living Your Dreams" by Mike Dooley.

Gail is passionate about teaching people about our subtle energy nature and empowering them to own their energy so that they can truly own their lives. She lives and works in Vancouver with her husband, two children, and many animals.

In this episode, we're covering several key topics about harnessing the power of your energy to improve your relationship health, including:

  • What exactly is personal energy?
  • Why is energy awareness important?
  • Is there any scientific proof that subtle energy is real?
  • How does energy awareness relate to emotional intelligence?
  • What are some ways energy affects my relationship?

Join us this week in the Love Shack and start using your energy to improve your relationship health today!

Important Links:

  1. Get your copy of my brand new book Feeling Like Your Marriage Is Dead? http://lifetimeoflove.me/
  2. Want to learn how to stop a fight in 20-seconds or less? Get the cheat sheet here. https://stacibartley.com/stopfight
  3. Miss our past episodes? Check them all out here: https://stacibartley.com/podcast
  4. Relationship Check-up – tired of re-hashing your issues with your partner without making progress? Schedule your check-up today! https://stacibartley.com/checkup
#80: The Truth About Being a Family Man in Today's World

It can be hard to be a father in today's world. You want to be there for your family, but it seems like work and other obligations always get in the way, because you're trying to be the best provider you can be.

You feel guilty that you're not able to spend more time with your kids and partner, and you worry about how the lack of time is impacting your relationship with them.

Tim Dunn, author of Dad On Purpose, is joining us this week in the Love Shack to explore what it's like to be a family man in today's world. Together, we'll discuss the challenges and difficulties that men face when trying to connect with the ones they love the most, and share some of the secrets that they wish they could share. Have you ever wanted to know what your husband is really thinking about? Men, are you feeling alone and misunderstood most of the time? This episode is for you!

We're going to discuss how society has changed the expectations for men and why they often struggle to connect with their families. We'll also provide some advice for women on how to better understand and support the men in their lives. Join us as we open up a new level of communication that will improve all of your relationships.

After listening to this episode, you'll have a better understanding of the challenges and difficulties that men face when trying to connect with others. You'll also be armed with some great tips and advice on how to build stronger relationships with the men in your life.

As a father of boys & girls, twins & singles, and toddlers & teenagers, Dad On Purpose author Tim Dunn has learned humility and tenacity from a wide variety of parenting missteps. Working as an insurance executive for over 25 years while also coaching, traveling, and dadding, he understands first-hand the importance of balance to a father and his family.

He is the founder of DadAthlon.com, a community dedicated to helping fathers achieve balanced strength across all aspects of fatherhood.

In this episode, we're covering several key topics about the truth about being a family man in today's world, including:

  1. How the saying "grown men don't cry" has forced men to emotionally shut down.
  2. How men can more easily emotionally connect with their children and partners.
  3. What women need to know to understand why the men they love struggle.
  4. Secret truths men wish they could share.

Listen in live Thursday at 1 pm PST/4 pm EST — and don't forget to subscribe so you never miss an episode!

Important Links:

  1. Get your copy of my brand new book Feeling Like Your Marriage Is Dead? http://lifetimeoflove.me/
  2. Want to learn how to stop a fight in 20-seconds or less? Get the cheat sheet here. https://stacibartley.com/stopfight
  3. Miss our past episodes? Check them all out here: https://stacibartley.com/podcast
  4. Relationship Check-up – tired of re-hashing your issues with your partner without making progress? Schedule your check-up today! https://stacibartley.com/checkup/