#73: Surprise! I Wrote A Book About How To Ensure A Lifetime Of Love

We all know that relationships are hard work, but sometimes it can feel like the effort you're putting in isn't changing anything.

It seems like half the time we're fighting and the other half we're bored. Maybe, we'd even say our relationship feels dead. But, why does it feel like we put so much work into our relationships and only get back a fraction of what we give? 

It's time to change how we think about relationships. They're not something that just happens to us, they're something we create. With the right mindset, you can have a loving relationship that will last and last. Love is not something we find or get given, it's something we learn to do. It's about learning to love yourself first, then being able to love another person in a way that doesn't involve all the obligations we've been taught that relationships require.

Sounds great in theory, but how do we actually go about this?

In my new book, I outline the exact steps you need to take to create revive your relationship and ensure a lifetime of love.

Hi! We are Staci & Tom Bartley and we help committed couples rescue their relationships so they can finally create long-lasting love without having to spend hours analyzing their past, beating themselves up, or feeling like they are making no progress. We do this via sharing our unique frameworks, teaching new tools and skills, one on one sessions, and through our signature courses Relationship Rescue and Love For A Lifetime.

Today we're going to be talking about chapter one of my new book which is all about how committed relationships are so much more about what’s going on inside of ourselves than they ever are about the other person. And, how we have been told many lies about love and relationships, and those lies have totally misguided us when it comes to creating the kind of relationship that can stand the test of time.

In this episode, we're talking about how relationships are more than just the other person. They're about what's going on inside of our own body and mind, too. Our needs, desires, and wants. Committed relationships require constant attention and dedication to make them work. Understanding that love is not perfect can help us have healthier relationships where it doesn't matter if there are disagreements or fights because they don't mean anything bad will happen in the future. Hopefully, this episode will help you think differently about your relationship with yourself and others by understanding how important self-love is for maintaining a healthy life partner connection. If all of this sounds intimidating and you want help enacting these principles, let us know! This is exactly what we do, and we are ready to help you create a Lifetime of Love!

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